Girl Crushes and Women I Admire
Ever had a crush on another girl? I have. I am not a lesbian but I adore women. I have eight best girlfriends and one adorable sister who I rely on for just about everything. I know some really strong women, working as everything from actors to doctors to marketers. Chicks are awesome. Like most […]
Are You Drained and Emotionally Exhausted? Here’s Why
Lately I have been feeling very, very drained. No, no, don’t worry about me. I’m fine. In fact, I am happier than I have been in a very, very long time. Things are going well for me now but lately I have been plagued by fatigue and tiredness. I am going out too much. Don’t […]
Withholding Sex: is it Ever OK? The Difference Between Men and Women
Do you do it? Have you ever had a partner do it to you? There is a common social misconception that only women withhold sex, but of course this is not true. In fact, if you enter the term into your search engine, you’ll find that all the searched articles relate to women withholding sex […]
Dealing With Haters by Talking Up Your Achievements
I have a friend who has taken to reading my blog and then criticising the things I have written about. “Hash browns?” he’ll text, “…how lame!” or “I can’t believe you write a whole post on what you wear – how vacuous.” I have noticed that people really love to criticise people who are doing […]
I Am Very Naughty and I Like to Break the Rules
I have always been very naughty. I like to get into mischief. This has always been a bit of a problem for me. I have an inquisitive mind and I like to break the rules just to see what will happen. Sometimes I wonder why everyone blindly follows the rules without ever questioning anything. I […]
How to Be Charming (Yes, You)
I have a thing for charmers. Male or female, superior or subordinate. Lover or neighbour. I love a charmer. I am also very charming myself. A typical Libran, I can usually get what I want in life because I know how to turn on the charm. For a while. As well as this, I have […]
Map of a Break Up: 40 Things You Can Expect
So it’s been three months. Three long months. But the months have not been lonely –in fact, they have been some of the busiest months of my life. Just over three months ago, my ex partner and I split. I was completely distraught at the time. I was actually physically sick; nauseous and unable to […]
How to Deal With Hurtful Insults from Someone You Love
It hurts quite a lot to be insulted by someone you care about. Hurtful insults can feel so unnecessary. I don’t often insult people just to be mean, but if I decide to, I can cut a person down with only a few well-chosen words. The better you know someone, the easier it is to hurt […]
Rejected By the Group? It’s NOT Your Imagination. Here’s Why
Have you ever felt that your ideas are being rejected at work or in a social situation because you are new to the group and considered an outsider? Well, you are probably not imagining it – it’s likely to be true, according to a couple of studies I found. When I was a kid I […]
How to Get Through Extreme Pain: The Tools Book Review: The Reversal of Desire
We all go through pain, usually daily. Sometimes the pain is mild (“Jeez it’s cold in here!”) sometimes it’s sharp (“Oh shit I just got fired.”) and how we learn to cope with pain can make or break us. Every now and then, in our lives we can experience immense amounts of pain, usually due […]
Dignity, Always Dignity | Keeping your Dignity After a Breakup
Dignity- Always dignity. It’s a line from one of my fave movies Singin’ in the Rain. It’s a funny quote because the character Don Lockwood (played by Gene Kelly) is a comedian who has to do the most undignified things in order to earn a wage: he has cream pies thrown in his face, he […]
When Does Sadness Become Depression?
I just got nothing today. Nothing at all. This is not a post about writer’s block, this is a post about emptiness. I feel like life has lost its lustre, but I can’t be too despondent here because I don’t want to cry. I want to be positive. It’s really hard to keep looking on […]
How Long Does it Take to Get Over a Break Up?
I have been avoiding a break up for the past ten years. Basically I never got over my very first love, who I split with by the time I was only 22. Since then I have had several long-term relationships, but I always kept my partners at arm’s length. I had a five year relationship […]
Taking Charge of My Life by Telling Myself a Better “Personal-Story”
I have been having trouble with some negative self talk lately, and it’s getting out of hand. I have discussed this problem on my blog before, but I am finding this a constant struggle. I have recently split with my partner, whom I loved very much, and I am still feeling very emotional and distraught. […]